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D&C with Ben Finer and his dad Ron

Aug 28, 2009|

Ben, who is just 13, was diagnosed last spring with lymphoma and sits down with Dennis and Callahan to discuss his battle with the disease. He just found out yesterday that the cancer has spread but despite that, Ben still keeps a very upbeat attitude. Ben talks about how this doesn't change his treatment but it does mean things get harder for him. He tells D&C that he can get through this setback because he has so many great people behind him. Ben says he doesn't care what happens to him but what he does care about is how a loss would affect his family and how tough it would be on them.

Transcript - will not be 100% accurate

Julie -- the broadcasts -- -- rough couple by handsome young men from Brockton Massachusetts names are friends Ron finder -- thirteen year old son Ben Ben was diagnosed with acute. Political blessed to leukemia back in it. It's -- lymphoma lymphoma. I'm sorry a candidate plastic large cell lymphoma. Is that a LL no yes yes ALL yes back in April of 2000 it has been a rough road I hope -- my friend. Some pretty well yeah. Only just got some bad news new yes you know how to win -- bad news. Well they cancers spread to my bone marrow but it doesn't change not really treatment it just means that it can get harder. But I can get through it because as so many great people behind me you wouldn't know. You wouldn't believe how many people I have the -- people who who has your back tell us who ventured back. Baghdad here. My whole family my whole extended family everyone. And then all their friends and other friends friends in all different friend Franklin never met me in their entire life -- send me pregnancy. In the mail is that right -- -- they thought about the people the Jimmy Fund clinic there -- all there on front of me doing all the work. I don't have your back throughout the front of you and leases and lease is leading the parade correct yes she is. So it strikes me as the guys like Eminem and we've met a few the last two days if it happens to say anything to happen is some great people. But it seems to happen too tough people and guys were great when you are positive you are obviously tough kid. I'm not sure every kid could take it maybe that's why it happened you. Well you know. I really care what happens to me. The only reason I'm worried about what have more about dying. -- that. -- -- -- It was he'd like Stanley so hard and everyone that I know. I don't think they could teach -- to hear what happens to me. But -- arm got him in my. Standing right. -- -- Straight down at him like downhill you can use it do you know you can secure an old soul my friend you what that means. The danger wise beyond your years yes he has yeah yeah don't you think about that then I mean do you think about. I tried and I try not to him I try to think that I will get it. No matter what happens. Ron are you very used to hear in this kind of you know rose from now I with a little hear this from Noah thirteen year old snow you don't know and we won't listen to to pol like. This morning yes and he was saying and I've said to -- It shouldn't happen to your kid right that it happened to me -- you used to it happening to a parent. But not -- child. And then gets very upset when we say that no I don't want it to happen to you this is mine I'll take it. But -- says things like it doesn't matter what happens to me I'm worried about the rest my family. Didn't have to say it's very hard process -- parents -- siblings to hear that. -- learning here at home on the couch and just send me. For interrupting paint. It's not the current. -- current -- is it mostly from the paint it's mostly from seen my mom's face when I get in -- Wow you're amazing you're amazing kid I say that run that -- -- -- yeah I was -- -- first thought is an adult is. It's -- in a weird way you feel lucky because as you are not kid. I don't know I don't know if I could take. You know what you're going through I suppose you have to you have to do you don't have a choice she'd have to battle through -- have to live through it but would you give to be -- There anything I would give anything. To be the one sitting there dealing with the cancer dealing with the pain and not having him go through what he goes through. But then he gets upset when I say that no it shouldn't be you dad. You have other things to fail whenever he did they give it right back into your look at the -- what that's what kind of idiot that has -- deal with it when he wanted to do when you better what's the first thing when -- you miss the -- -- -- will will you go to school to school the school. He's a huge fan of school he loves gonna schooling has a lot of friends there he loves the teachers there and this past year. He got through about. April. Yeah and got diagnosed in April overlaid or may of 08 group right around the school vacation. And didn't get back to the very end I think he got back for two days or two half days righted the. And I will matter for half of the for half for the next to last day in and that's the last day. Was an actual half gang who like save green tag they act but that was a big goal of his or needed to get back and part of -- dead cool. He needed to get back even just to talk to the teachers to see the kids. The so we talked about earlier he would be -- -- is it's normalcy that you crave -- absolutely go out of school I mean I I guarantee that -- -- 113 year old on the street. Are they looking -- to go back to school next week yeah now I'm not gonna say no it cutter what would be you because you just wanted to be the way used to be normal correct yeah yeah. -- in this apparent -- you guys the guys your age we sources say engineer sent I want my kids make the big leagues or get a college -- America. Don't be of the style athlete or what have been asleep in the play you -- Atomic kid to build the schools absolutely isn't have to get a view and make the NFL lead us now. We just I just just go to school to speak kids yet. Ron other aspects to do with the rest of the family and others do you Brothers and sisters. He has a brother lives -- home seventeen year old brother and a 21 year old sister than those at home bright guy says a 25 year old sister that lives in upstate New York with. Her husband and his five year old nephew -- Foster I'm sure they'll also be back as well but they do but they have that they have normal lives that they're trying to run as well else like yours has been turned the site it really has -- on how to how to -- both of those. It's very difficult to balance that it's hard to take the time away from work when we go into clinic. Yesterday was a day then went to clinic and he said to me dad go to work. Mom can take me today who don't worry about it which is getting blood tests you go to work I know you have things to do -- it's very hard for me to go away to work. Knowing that he's having to deal with the clinic right but then you think about what goes on at the clinic and and how great they are there. Yet they take care -- but they also take care of us. As parents going to the clinic it's amazing to me how much the clinic and hospital take care of us -- they're looking out for us as his parents. Seeing what we need what they can do to help us as well number car bombs are gonna. I was about to say you'll -- -- Questionnaire and what's great about it they wouldn't efforts and may have dean systems and every board dean -- magazine and turns us. It's great people who will be trained him right away. And then always if he where we need something you can ask someone mailed. -- next person kind experts and they can't do it themselves. Any chance for kids who left a week in Yankee know they have we eat and PS2'S maintained all over the place in the clinic in DS games and card games. For all these kids to use and they never get bored and never get tired. -- what were they when they do for unity startup that supported where they do the parents. They really. Take care of whatever you need. They they come and sit down and talk to you when they can see that you're not doing well. They'll provide. Food or drink if you need it. Committee needed drink and I'll a lot of how would be nice but we don't -- that for pitching in here I get to get -- -- game we can get only do we get to go into game occasionally ended that's been great for Ben this year. -- really wasn't much of a sports guy who he was really into. Gaming it and building -- on Lego maniac so he loves to build things up. Why is in going to some of -- games and meeting people. Obviously he's really come into liking baseball learning about baseball he got the opportunity to go to Jim Rice tonight. He met Carlton Fisk and collins' wife and had a wonderful night that night -- Johnny Johnny Pesky that night and I got some great pictures with that and -- is it's really become something important to baton. It incident I was calling -- -- transplant -- he has she's waiting for transplant it he sees that. He gets to do some of these things because he's become sick. But he wants people to understand that. He wants to do these things anyway and he wants other kids to be able to do these things and bringing the money into that the Jimmy Fund in the clinic. Gets other kids to go he'd gladly give up. Go into Red Sox game if somebody else could go he gladly give up anything for it not only himself but other kids to get cured. We've met so many kids in so many families in the clinic. And it's nice to be able to sit down -- those parents and talk to them they understand. What it's like to go through this well also. This -- it was very clear when we met bin when we. Drop by the the clinic -- few months ago and it was very clear the you're very special young man with a lot of good things they give you better and and exactly we are gonna get you better and -- -- pleasure to re meet you again today. You are old soul fury the fine young man and a remarkable I don't even think. Says what it's all about but very nice to see you again. We can back in business next year. After the transplant after the transplant -- -- -- -- -- -- gonna -- -- -- you -- finer and finer joining us here. Yeah how many thank you very much too much appreciated 8777381234. What is it about -- -- and us yeah. That's them it's amazing thirteen analysts don't see what you said thirty just 37 did you say I don't care about me I -- moment I am offended at least thirteen -- god do we have to -- we have to get everyone better but we have to get that kid. Back on his beat.

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